More thoughts on the new Youtube comment system

When google implemented the new comment system they said that it was trolls and abusive comments. I think there were other reasons involved. Mostly I think they wanted to promote Google+ by forcing people to use it. The New comment system is designed to share comments with your friends rather than having a public forum.

They say it is supposed to stop trolling and abusive comments but from reading the comments in the more high profile ABDL videos it seems to have the opposite effect. The Top Comments are usually those with the most active discussion, and the threads with the most discussion are usually the ones with the most controversial OP. More often than not controversial means hater. So instead of seeing rational or informative comments in the Top Comments you see stuff like "If that were my kid I would disown him" or "These freaks need to be put down."

It is tempting to reply to these people. I have done it myself many times. But with the new comment system it is even more important to use restraint when deciding how you wish to promote ABDLs. Already I have found that if I post more than 2 comments in a 24 hour period my comments will be ghosted (visible only to me).

I think another problem is that when I reply to someone that I disagree with they will often down vote my comment, and this results in my future comments being more likely to be ghosted. Trolls and haters are more likely to be the OP in threads like this, and ABDLs and advocates are more likely to be posting replies. This is very troubling for someone who wants to promote rational discussion.

We really need to rethink how we post comments on youtube, especially in the videos that vanillas watch and comment on like the My Strange Addiction videos. It is important to vote up comments that are supportive and well reasoned. When you reply to comments, try to comment in threads in which the OP is someone that is supportive of us. I'm not sure but I think that the up-votes and down-votes of the OP carry more weight in the new system. Also, the OP is always visible so if threads where the OP is supportive get more replies then it is more likely that most of the comments in the Top Comments will be supportive.

When you see comments that you disagree with carefully consider what is going to happen before hitting the reply button. If they are a hater they are just going to insult you and downvote you. When you get down-voted your comments are more likely to get ghosted. And when your comments are ghosted you will no longer be able to advocate for ABDLs.

If you are posting comments pay attention to if your comments are being ghosted. You can do this by logging out, but it is quicker to go to the video in a private window. When your comments are invisible when you are not logged it is time to take a break. Wait at least 24 hours before posting another comment. After this confirm if your comments are visible every time you post a comment.

If someone is a hater but you would like to address what they said consider starting a new threads. Do not address them directly, instead explain why the ideas they are promoting are wrong. And absolutely do not tag the person with whom you disagree. Most haters just want to hit and run. They are not interested in discussion so they are unlikely to watch the video again or read the comments. If you tag them then they are going to down-vote you and post more abusive comments.

Remember, we are trying to promote supportive comment. We do not want to encourage haters. Replying to haters is encouraging them. Most of the time if you ignore them they go away on their own. Using emotional arguments also encourages haters, especially if you act like a victim. Do not be a victim. Victims are troll bait. Remember, ABDL is something that we do for fun. It is not for everyone. Haters just get angry at the idea of other people having fun. Fuck them. They are not worth your time. Trolls don't care about you having fun. You cannot change their mind because they don't believe what they write in the first place.

Your attitude should be: This is something I do for fun. If you don't like what I do for fun that is your problem not mine. Disregard haters and enjoy your life with all of your strange and wonderful fantasies. (As long as they are Safe, Sane and Consensual.)

(And yes, I break my own rules. Is it OK for me to break my own rules? Probably not, but at least I know that I am an idiot.)

Are Adult Babies becoming fashionable?

Welcome to “toddlercore”: How dressing like a 2-year-old became the fashion world’s latest craze

Are Adult Babies becoming fashionable? Probably not, and I'm not sure if I want to be represented by celebrities and pop stars, but at the very least right now might be a good time to go shopping for ageplay clothing. Overalls go in and out of fashion. It is best to buy them when they are in fashion, and there might be other stuff that you might like at vanilla stores too. Happy Hunting!!!

Think about it: Toddlers have it all figured out. On any given day, a toddler can be found doing inspiring things like commanding attention in public places, eating vegetables out of pouches, and wearing tutus to formal events. They exude confidence and laugh in the face of stylistic convention. A toddler dresses for the job she wants (doctor, superhero, princess, sea witch), not the job she has (toddler). A toddler has no idea what Taylor Swift wore last week, and she doesn’t worry about things like layering or matching or wearing wedges when she’s supposed to be wearing clogs. Instead, she just wears clothes that feature things she likes (“I like dogs. I want to wear this shirt that has a dog on it”). She romps in rompers. She jumps in jumpers. She sports jelly shoes with socks, and she doesn’t care if you like it.

And so toddler-inspired fashion has been a much-needed breath of fresh air this season. While unconventional prints and childlike pieces are not by any means new elements in style (let’s not forget our fixation with baby-doll dresses in the ’90s), it seems like these carefree, fun clothes are really having a moment right now.

Not Working Out

I've been putting a lot of thought into it and I just don't think being an adult is going to work for me.

Be like Tom

Everybody just wants to be liked and accepted. Except for Tom. Tom doesn't give a shit.

youtube comments

I was able to post comments yesterday but I just tried to post a few and they are not showing up. Maybe I need to wait 24 hours between posting comments or something?

Adult Baby roleplaying in the larger context of ageplay

In reply to a comment on youtube:

Adult baby roleplaying is just a more specific form of ageplay (or age regression roleplaying). People into ageplay might roleplay as any age they desire. Some people have a specific age in mind when they roleplay, or they might combine aspects of a range of ages. This includes adult babies. In my experience it is a bit rare for someone to do strict roleplaying as an infant. Most adult babies would be better described as adult toddlers. Some adult babies roleplay as 8 or 10 year olds who like to, or are "forced" to wear diapers and/or baby clothes. The roleplaying you do is only limited to your imagination.

Act Your Age

Where does it say we have to "act" our age? As long as it makes me happy and I'm not hurting anyone, I will act whatever age I want to!

Memes: Weird vs Normal

Being called weird is like being called limited edition. Meaning you're something people don't see that often. Remember that.

Someone just called me normal... I have never been so insulted in my life!

Happiness and the Brain (Viewing Adult Baby roleplaying as a positive aspect of my life)

Many people, including adult babies, ponder why it is that we enjoy roleplaying.  In order to understand why adult babies like roleplaying specifically, it is important to understand why people enjoy things in general. Started searching for youtube videos on this a month or so ago and watched a couple videos. I think this is one of the ones I watched.

I want to do more studying about this and would like to learn more than talk shows are going to provide.

An interesting concept that I picked up watching this is that psychology and psychiatry are more concerned with understanding problems than studying things that are positive about our psychology. The general concept of this is that we should be proactive with our mental health, rather than just reactive when we are having problems.

How do I relate this to the issue of adult babies? There is a tendency in psychology and psychiatry to view everything is a problem. A doctor who is unfamiliar with adult babies is asked an opinion about them and they start with the assumption that it is a problem to be overcome. This isn't because they don't like adult babies. This is just the way they view issues in general. What if this is a false assumption? What if being an adult baby is not a problem in and of itself?

I'm not sure if I've written this before but I'm glad I'm an adult baby. I see it as a positive aspect of my life. It is something that I enjoy doing and it is good to have things that you enjoy doing so long as it does not cause any objective harm. I think that it is better to enjoy things in life than to not enjoy them. Roleplaying makes me extremely happy. It is relatively easy to do. It does not harm other people. If I don't spend too much time in a wet diaper there are no physical drawbacks. If I have a well balanced life where I take care of my adult responsibilities and have some more grown up interests that occupy my spare time there are no financial or psychological drawbacks. In general it seems like a win win situation for me.

The most likely negative consequences would come from external sources, not the roleplaying itself. I have not experienced discrimination. I am fairly conservative of whom I share this part of my life with but I think it is appropriate. If you are into spanking I don't think it is appropriate to tell your co-workers, and that is how I feel about ageplay as well. Sometimes things do slip out but my vanilla friends who know about my baby side are actually very supportive. You never can tell how someone is going to react though so that is why I recommend being conservative about who you tell.

I hope to write more about how adult baby roleplaying relates to psychology and neurology in the future, but not sure when that will be.

Over 90000 ageplayers on one single website

I just noticed that there are over 90000 people using the "age play" tag on one of the fetish sites I'm on. No, not over 9000, over 90k. Just let that sink in. I wont explicitly name the website but I'm guessing a lot of adult babies could guess without even giving the initials FL. This is a general fetish website, it isn't even oriented towards adult babies or ageplayers. I'm not even sure if the adult baby websites give information about the number of members. Also consider that not everyone who uses FL tags their fetishes at all, let alone tags all their fetishes. Also a lot of people are shy to advertise that they are into ageplay even within the fetish community because of the taboo.

There is no way to know for sure how many adult babies are out there, but it wouldn't surprise me if there were over a million just within the United States. Just consider this when you think that you are the only one out there. You are not. This is not to say I think you should go out and tell everyone you are an adult baby. I'm pretty conservative about who I tell and I recommend other people to also be conservative. I don't even tell all my friends in the kink community, at least not until they have seen me at a party and the cat is out of the bag. But the internet has changed everything. It used to be that adult babies would be lucky if they got to meet anyone else with shared interests. Now it seems like anywhere you go in the USA there will be an adult baby community within driving distance. We are also gaining acceptance in the BDSM community and they really are everywhere.

I just wanted to share some positive thinking.

The new youtube comment system sucks

Since the new system was implemented I've noticed a number of my comments are not visible when I am not logged in or on another account. Sometimes it will help if you select the Newest First option but not always. I think it is more likely that a comment will be visible if it gets thumbs up. I also think the number of replies increases the probability that a comment will be visible. Keep this in mind when you are considering replying to haters, especially if their comment is not visible when in Top Comments mode and the first comment in the thread is from a hater. I'm not saying you should never reply to haters, but you should be conservative about it. I am reluctant to suggest that you reply to comments you agree with because I do not want to encourage spamming. However if you have something more interesting to say than "I agree" then go ahead. Things you might say in a reply could include clarification, or expanding on what they have written.

Just keep in mind that the new system is going to take some getting used to and it does kind of change the rules. Try to pay attention to what results in better visibility for your comments. I am not sure but I suspect that an increased frequency in comments will result in a decrease in visibility. Sometimes it doesn't make much sense at all. Sometimes I will reply to a couple comments and then start a new thread and the replies I posted are hidden but the new thread I started is OK.

Taking a break from adult responsibilities

In response to a person inquiring about us because they would like to help people understand what we are about.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=889-MBf31ek

It can be difficult to understand. I like to compare it to explaining why you like your favorite food to someone for whom that food tastes terrible.

I've been wanting to write more extensively on this. I'd like to break open my old psychology textbooks and do some research. It is important to consider why people enjoy things in general. Simply put when certain areas of the brain light up we feel happy. What makes these areas of the brain light up is going to differ from person to person. Things that are enjoyable to most people are considered "normal."

On some levels most people can appreciate looking back fondly at the past. This is called nostalgia. Many people can appreciate that children do not have the stresses of adult life. While it would be irresponsible to abandon our adult responsibilities, it is also unhealthy to dwell on your problems all the time. For instance, people who do not take time off from work to go on vacation will often become less efficient at their job and it hurts their productivity.

It is also important to take time every day to do something that you enjoy and to temporarily let go of your responsibilities and problems. I have heard the word decompress used to describe this. A person might do any number of things to decompress. For someone that has an interest in age regression roleplaying this is just one of many things that we do for fun. The primary difference is that with us when we take a break from our adult responsibilities, we sometimes take that a little more literally than most people.

When you state your opinions try to make sure they are based on facts not emotions

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Hc813SbfoQ

Quite often when people first hear about ABDLs or ageplayers they will have a negative reaction that is based solely on emotion. It is understandable for people to have this reaction, after all age regression bushes some pretty serious buttons. Carol watched Riley's episode of My Strange Addiction and made a reaction video based on her emotions. After she made this video, she reflected on what she had seen and what she had said. She learned more about the subject and as she learned more her opinion changed.

She developed an opinion that was based on facts rather than emotion and she is now one of our supporters. She did not take her video down and I am glad because it shows that people can change their mind on this subject. It is a sign of high moral character to admit you made a mistake and I applaud her for it.

If you are going to advocate for ABDLs and ageplayers I would ask you to learn from her example. Before you post a comment take the time to reflect and gather information. At the very least read the video description and the recent comments. If you had bothered to read the description of this video you would have learned that Carol has changed her mind.

Everyone makes mistakes and I am no exception to that rule. I only ask that you try your best to avoid making knee jerk reactions when posting comments. Instead set a good example and show that we are more mature than our critics even if we wear diapers.

Skepticism of broad claims about ABDLs due to nonrandom sampling

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=889-MBf31ek

It is fine to speculate on the causes/origins of ABDL interests, but unless you have hard data to back up your claims it is a mistake to insist that your speculations are true, especially if you are making claims about the general community. Yes, there are many ABDLs who experienced abuse or neglect when they were children. There are also many ABDLs who did not experience abuse or neglect. I do not want to criticize some unknown therapist, especially if I don't know her exact words. At most she can make observations based on the clients she has seen. Understand that this is a nonrandom sample and is prone to selection bias. In this example people who consult with a therapist are more likely to have had problems in their childhood than the general population.

Reality TV, amount of time spent roleplaying, age ranges and diapers

Another response to someone asking honest questions about ABDLs:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JuXp2PIVkKY

Ageplay and ABDL issues are complicated and Reality TV simultaneously tries to simplify the explanations and exaggerate the portrayal for shock value. Stanley spends more time roleplaying than most ABs, and even in his case he only roleplays for 2-3 hours a day.

Most ABs would be better described as Adult Toddlers, and it is actually quite rare for someone to strictly act in a manner to a specific age. In fact it is much more common for ageplayers to have a range of ages that they identify with, and interests might switch from 8 year old activities/roles to 2 year old activities/roles or even aspects of both simultaneously.

It is quite common for ABs and adult littles to watch cartoons and old TV shows, play video games, play with Legos, color a coloring book, or just lie on the couch with a blanket cuddling a stuffed animal. Typically we enjoy doing these things whether or not we are dressed up or diapered.

Most ABs also have adult interests in their life. Roleplaying is only one of many things I enjoy in life and it might be my very favorite thing but I would not want to give up my grown up interests and activities. I act like a grown up when I need to and when I want to. Roleplaying is something that I do in my spare time. There is even a saying in the AB community that you can't be an Adult Baby without first being an Adult.

As for the diapers, that is a bit more difficult to explain to someone who doesn't share the same positive reaction to them. As an adult baby I would describe it as a tactile trigger to implicit memories from early childhood. However, there are also people who have a diaper fetish who are not interested in age regression roleplaying. Some of them might enjoy wearing diapers because of the tactile trigger, but others might enjoy them for other reasons.

I should also note that while it is rare, there are people who roleplay as a baby or toddler who do not have an interest in wearing diapers. I understand if you find the prospect of wetting a diaper to be gross. Bodily fluids in general are taboo in our society. Keep in mind that urine is sterile and it is a mostly harmless activity unless you go too long without changing. Also, not everyone who enjoys wearing diapers will use them. But even if you don't wet your diapers you still have to be careful because sweat is practically the same as urine.

Billie Piper as an AB Mommy

Secret Diary of a Call Girl - Baby Fantasy

Not the worst portrayal of ABDLs in the mainstream media. My parents watch this show so it is good to know they have some understanding of this as roleplaying if they ever found out about my interests. I've been meaning to watch this show for a while now. I thought she did a good job playing Rose. In real life, it would be completely inappropriate to give someone a job like this without any knowledge whatsoever. With any kind of roleplaying there should be negotiation before play begins. Also, her clothes are completely impractical for playing an AB Mommy, especially her shoes. But I suppose the humor of the show lies in her being put into situations she is unprepared for.