When someone is being critical, or appearing to being critical of ABDLs, try to make a distinction between people expressing their personal feelings about ABDLs from those who are making statements alluding to "facts."
People have a right to their own opinion, but they do not have a right to their own facts. If someone makes statements that are false you should correct them. On the other hand, if someone is squicked or creeped out by the idea of ABDLs then that is their own business, and I think it is an understandable reaction. People have a right to their own emotions, this stuff pushes some pretty serious buttons, and we need to respect that. It is wrong to attack someone because they have had an unfavorable emotional response to us.
In the BDSM scene there are quite a few people that are squicked by ABDLs, and even ageplayers in general. Most of these people that I have encountered in person were of the YKINMK variety.
Now, I imagine that some people are thinking that just because someone has an emotional reaction doesn't mean they have to express it by posting a comment. This is the internet we are talking about, and on youtube especially, many people do not put much thought before rushing to post a comment. Stupidity is the rule rather than the exception on youtube. Try to remember this and to not become yet another example of it.
Let me give you the example that prompted me to write this:
If this was my child, I'd be so disappointed.
Now, I can see how some people could interpret this as a personal attack. You read it as saying ABDLs are a disappointment. But the way he is saying this is with an I statement. He is expressing his own personal feelings, and my main point here is he has a right to his personal feelings. If one of his children was an ABDL, and who knows maybe they are, then it is quite possible this would be his immediate reaction if he if he ever found out. I would not blame him for this.
A person is going to have a reaction that is beyond their control in this situation. Now I believe that parents should unconditionally love their children. But he did not say that he would stop loving their child or disown them or anything. There is no way to tell what he would react in the long term if he were actually put in this situation. Perhaps he would try to understand it, or at least understand that this is only one part of their adult child's life and learn to live and let live.
If you attack someone for a post like this, and I have seen other people say this before, then you are only making us look defensive and reactionary. You are not promoting understanding. You have closed their minds for them. How can you expect them to respect our emotions if you do not respect their emotions?
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