Skepticism of broad claims about ABDLs due to nonrandom sampling

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=889-MBf31ek

It is fine to speculate on the causes/origins of ABDL interests, but unless you have hard data to back up your claims it is a mistake to insist that your speculations are true, especially if you are making claims about the general community. Yes, there are many ABDLs who experienced abuse or neglect when they were children. There are also many ABDLs who did not experience abuse or neglect. I do not want to criticize some unknown therapist, especially if I don't know her exact words. At most she can make observations based on the clients she has seen. Understand that this is a nonrandom sample and is prone to selection bias. In this example people who consult with a therapist are more likely to have had problems in their childhood than the general population.

Reality TV, amount of time spent roleplaying, age ranges and diapers

Another response to someone asking honest questions about ABDLs:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JuXp2PIVkKY

Ageplay and ABDL issues are complicated and Reality TV simultaneously tries to simplify the explanations and exaggerate the portrayal for shock value. Stanley spends more time roleplaying than most ABs, and even in his case he only roleplays for 2-3 hours a day.

Most ABs would be better described as Adult Toddlers, and it is actually quite rare for someone to strictly act in a manner to a specific age. In fact it is much more common for ageplayers to have a range of ages that they identify with, and interests might switch from 8 year old activities/roles to 2 year old activities/roles or even aspects of both simultaneously.

It is quite common for ABs and adult littles to watch cartoons and old TV shows, play video games, play with Legos, color a coloring book, or just lie on the couch with a blanket cuddling a stuffed animal. Typically we enjoy doing these things whether or not we are dressed up or diapered.

Most ABs also have adult interests in their life. Roleplaying is only one of many things I enjoy in life and it might be my very favorite thing but I would not want to give up my grown up interests and activities. I act like a grown up when I need to and when I want to. Roleplaying is something that I do in my spare time. There is even a saying in the AB community that you can't be an Adult Baby without first being an Adult.

As for the diapers, that is a bit more difficult to explain to someone who doesn't share the same positive reaction to them. As an adult baby I would describe it as a tactile trigger to implicit memories from early childhood. However, there are also people who have a diaper fetish who are not interested in age regression roleplaying. Some of them might enjoy wearing diapers because of the tactile trigger, but others might enjoy them for other reasons.

I should also note that while it is rare, there are people who roleplay as a baby or toddler who do not have an interest in wearing diapers. I understand if you find the prospect of wetting a diaper to be gross. Bodily fluids in general are taboo in our society. Keep in mind that urine is sterile and it is a mostly harmless activity unless you go too long without changing. Also, not everyone who enjoys wearing diapers will use them. But even if you don't wet your diapers you still have to be careful because sweat is practically the same as urine.

Billie Piper as an AB Mommy

Secret Diary of a Call Girl - Baby Fantasy

Not the worst portrayal of ABDLs in the mainstream media. My parents watch this show so it is good to know they have some understanding of this as roleplaying if they ever found out about my interests. I've been meaning to watch this show for a while now. I thought she did a good job playing Rose. In real life, it would be completely inappropriate to give someone a job like this without any knowledge whatsoever. With any kind of roleplaying there should be negotiation before play begins. Also, her clothes are completely impractical for playing an AB Mommy, especially her shoes. But I suppose the humor of the show lies in her being put into situations she is unprepared for.

Embrace the word Weird

There are some ABDLs who are offended by the word weird. I've said it before and I'll say it again, there is nothing inherently wrong with the word weird. Weird just means different. Something that is different might be right or wrong, but it's being different is not relevant to it being right or wrong.

 In my observations most ABDLs and most Kinky people are pretty normal outside their kinks. I think of people in general most people have something about them that is different, that is weird. In fact, if someone was completely normal I think that would actually be really weird. It's not normal to be completely normal. Having interests that make you stand out is essential to having a well rounded personality in my opinion. I think we should embrace the word weird. Besides, we wear diapers and act like babies. While there is nothing wrong with that I think it is absurd to call it normal.

Anyway, here is a video from a weirdo who as far as I know is not an ABDL:

[VLOG] I'm a Weirdo!

How Bronies deal with Criticism

For maybe a year I noticed pony pictures in ABDL forums and wondered why people were into them. Then I actually watched the show and it is actually pretty good. What surprised me most of all was that the fandom is even more interesting than the show. Riley mentioned in one of her videos that she went to My Little Pony conventions and I thought it was just people buying vintage toys. Why do you even need to go to a convention for that? Can't you just buy them online? Now I know that there is a lot more to their community than cheap plastic toys.

What impresses me the most about bronies is the way they deal with haters. The fandom was born on 4chan so the first generation of bronies was quite familiar with trolling. Many of them had done their fair share of trolling themselves, so they are resistant to giving in to trolls. The trick is to not give a fuck. Much of the hate directed at Bronies is similar to what ABDLs might see from time to time. The brony fandom has grown since the early days, and the neophytes need education in the ways of trolling. Here is an interesting video that tries to explain to the newbies what the real deal is. I think it is good advice that ABDLs should take to heart.

 How to Brony: Dealing with Criticism

Why Do I Like Spanking Fetish?

Two blog posts in one day. Anyway, here is a long comment that I wrote to a youtube video on spanking.

  Why Do I Like Spanking Fetish?

I have observed a strong correlation between spanking and ageplay. Not everyone into spanking is into ageplay, but it is quite common for people into spanking to also want to dress up like or roleplay as a child.

As for why a person has an interest in spanking, it is going to depend on the individual. Like other fetishes I think that for many people it is an extension of childhood obsessions. Even if you were never spanked as a child, most likely you had friends that were, and even threatened with spankings by teachers, babysitters, and other parents. We also live in a culture with media saturation. Growing up I remember references to spanking in many cartoons, tv shows, movies, books etc. A cartoon that is of particular interest to Adult Babies is the Tom and Jerry film Baby Puss.

Would we still be spankos or littles if we had not been exposed to media such as this? There is no way to know for sure. There is also a question of are we the way we are because of these cartoons etc., or are they only remarkable to us because we are spankos or littles?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_Puss_%28film%29

Baby Puss

Adult Babies as Roleplaying

Just wrote this for youtube. I like the longer comments of the new comment system. Other aspects of it are confusing.

One of the great things about being an adult is that, within reason, you can do pretty much anything you want in your spare time. Some adults like roleplaying. There are many different kinds of roleplaying such as Teacher/Student, Slave/Master, Plumber/Housewife, and Doctor/Patient. Ageplay is just another form of roleplaying. Most people into this are more interested in playing a role younger than their true age but someone playing as a person older than themselves would also fall under the definition of ageplay. Adult Babies are simply people who like to do roleplaying as an infant or toddler. We don't need to grow up. We are grown up. We have jobs and responsibilities just like other adults. Just because you are grown up doesn't mean you have to act like it non-stop 24/7.

http://xkcd.com/150/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_roleplay