One of the biggest problems that people who criticize ABDLs have with us is that this is something that does not appeal to them, and they figure if they don't like it then other people shouldn't like it either. If you are responding to critics, try to recognize when this is the case and point it out.
Amusing video explaining this. And then I notice
another video that is also amusing in this same theme.
Here is a comment I wrote in response to a video like this: