ABDL vs eating disorders (bad analogies)

Comment from a My Strange Addiction video on youtube:

"I never got a chance to be a little girl." That right there, is what started all of this. I'm all for comfort, but compare this to the 600 lb girl. She is that way because eating comforts her. Is that healthy? No. Therefore, is this healthy? No.

 I am not going to reply to this one on youtube but it is such a poor argument I wanted to discuss it here.

While overeating often has negative consequences, this poster did not identify any negative consequences that would result from adult baby roleplaying. Some people might make a slippery slope argument and suggest that once you start roleplaying you will want to roleplay more and more until it interferes with your adult responsibilities. My experience with adult babies is that that sort of thing happening is extremely rare. Most adult babies find an equilibrium between their responsibilities, their adult social life, and their roleplaying.

I am tempted to make a sarcastic remark about people who have a problem with overeating having to give up eating entirely. This would be a poor analogy as well because you can't live without eating, but you can live without roleplaying. However, the implication here is that it is unhealthy to do things that you enjoy doing and this is a ridiculous concept. I think it is fair to say that it would be unhealthy if you never did things that you enjoyed. And if there is no objective harm in adult baby roleplaying then how exactly is it unhealthy?

I guess the short, maybe sarcastic, way of responding to this is:

So it is unhealthy to do anything that brings you comfort???

More thoughts on the new Youtube comment system

When google implemented the new comment system they said that it was trolls and abusive comments. I think there were other reasons involved. Mostly I think they wanted to promote Google+ by forcing people to use it. The New comment system is designed to share comments with your friends rather than having a public forum.

They say it is supposed to stop trolling and abusive comments but from reading the comments in the more high profile ABDL videos it seems to have the opposite effect. The Top Comments are usually those with the most active discussion, and the threads with the most discussion are usually the ones with the most controversial OP. More often than not controversial means hater. So instead of seeing rational or informative comments in the Top Comments you see stuff like "If that were my kid I would disown him" or "These freaks need to be put down."

It is tempting to reply to these people. I have done it myself many times. But with the new comment system it is even more important to use restraint when deciding how you wish to promote ABDLs. Already I have found that if I post more than 2 comments in a 24 hour period my comments will be ghosted (visible only to me).

I think another problem is that when I reply to someone that I disagree with they will often down vote my comment, and this results in my future comments being more likely to be ghosted. Trolls and haters are more likely to be the OP in threads like this, and ABDLs and advocates are more likely to be posting replies. This is very troubling for someone who wants to promote rational discussion.

We really need to rethink how we post comments on youtube, especially in the videos that vanillas watch and comment on like the My Strange Addiction videos. It is important to vote up comments that are supportive and well reasoned. When you reply to comments, try to comment in threads in which the OP is someone that is supportive of us. I'm not sure but I think that the up-votes and down-votes of the OP carry more weight in the new system. Also, the OP is always visible so if threads where the OP is supportive get more replies then it is more likely that most of the comments in the Top Comments will be supportive.

When you see comments that you disagree with carefully consider what is going to happen before hitting the reply button. If they are a hater they are just going to insult you and downvote you. When you get down-voted your comments are more likely to get ghosted. And when your comments are ghosted you will no longer be able to advocate for ABDLs.

If you are posting comments pay attention to if your comments are being ghosted. You can do this by logging out, but it is quicker to go to the video in a private window. When your comments are invisible when you are not logged it is time to take a break. Wait at least 24 hours before posting another comment. After this confirm if your comments are visible every time you post a comment.

If someone is a hater but you would like to address what they said consider starting a new threads. Do not address them directly, instead explain why the ideas they are promoting are wrong. And absolutely do not tag the person with whom you disagree. Most haters just want to hit and run. They are not interested in discussion so they are unlikely to watch the video again or read the comments. If you tag them then they are going to down-vote you and post more abusive comments.

Remember, we are trying to promote supportive comment. We do not want to encourage haters. Replying to haters is encouraging them. Most of the time if you ignore them they go away on their own. Using emotional arguments also encourages haters, especially if you act like a victim. Do not be a victim. Victims are troll bait. Remember, ABDL is something that we do for fun. It is not for everyone. Haters just get angry at the idea of other people having fun. Fuck them. They are not worth your time. Trolls don't care about you having fun. You cannot change their mind because they don't believe what they write in the first place.

Your attitude should be: This is something I do for fun. If you don't like what I do for fun that is your problem not mine. Disregard haters and enjoy your life with all of your strange and wonderful fantasies. (As long as they are Safe, Sane and Consensual.)

(And yes, I break my own rules. Is it OK for me to break my own rules? Probably not, but at least I know that I am an idiot.)

Are Adult Babies becoming fashionable?

Welcome to “toddlercore”: How dressing like a 2-year-old became the fashion world’s latest craze

Are Adult Babies becoming fashionable? Probably not, and I'm not sure if I want to be represented by celebrities and pop stars, but at the very least right now might be a good time to go shopping for ageplay clothing. Overalls go in and out of fashion. It is best to buy them when they are in fashion, and there might be other stuff that you might like at vanilla stores too. Happy Hunting!!!

Think about it: Toddlers have it all figured out. On any given day, a toddler can be found doing inspiring things like commanding attention in public places, eating vegetables out of pouches, and wearing tutus to formal events. They exude confidence and laugh in the face of stylistic convention. A toddler dresses for the job she wants (doctor, superhero, princess, sea witch), not the job she has (toddler). A toddler has no idea what Taylor Swift wore last week, and she doesn’t worry about things like layering or matching or wearing wedges when she’s supposed to be wearing clogs. Instead, she just wears clothes that feature things she likes (“I like dogs. I want to wear this shirt that has a dog on it”). She romps in rompers. She jumps in jumpers. She sports jelly shoes with socks, and she doesn’t care if you like it.

And so toddler-inspired fashion has been a much-needed breath of fresh air this season. While unconventional prints and childlike pieces are not by any means new elements in style (let’s not forget our fixation with baby-doll dresses in the ’90s), it seems like these carefree, fun clothes are really having a moment right now.

Not Working Out

I've been putting a lot of thought into it and I just don't think being an adult is going to work for me.

Be like Tom

Everybody just wants to be liked and accepted. Except for Tom. Tom doesn't give a shit.

youtube comments

I was able to post comments yesterday but I just tried to post a few and they are not showing up. Maybe I need to wait 24 hours between posting comments or something?

Adult Baby roleplaying in the larger context of ageplay

In reply to a comment on youtube:

Adult baby roleplaying is just a more specific form of ageplay (or age regression roleplaying). People into ageplay might roleplay as any age they desire. Some people have a specific age in mind when they roleplay, or they might combine aspects of a range of ages. This includes adult babies. In my experience it is a bit rare for someone to do strict roleplaying as an infant. Most adult babies would be better described as adult toddlers. Some adult babies roleplay as 8 or 10 year olds who like to, or are "forced" to wear diapers and/or baby clothes. The roleplaying you do is only limited to your imagination.